Setting expectations in the divorce process

Unpleasant Surprises in Divorce

In life, we can categorize everything into “controllable” and “uncontrollable” aspects. We can control our actions, but not those of people around us. When seeking a divorce, it’s unrealistic to expect a difficult spouse to suddenly become cooperative during the proceedings.

While TV shows like Judge Judy might give the impression that lying spouses face immediate consequences in court, real-life legal processes can be time-consuming and costly. Here are a few things we can control:


Uncovering marital assets is crucial, especially when spouses try to hide them. Skilled attorneys can analyze statements, reveal spending patterns, and determine true income figures.

At Reeves Lavallee, PC, one attorney settled a case involving hidden assets. The initial offer was $13,000. After months of discovery and uncovering assets, the final settlement reached over $260,000. Discovery is essential.

When responding to discovery requests, timely compliance is necessary. Adhering to Massachusetts Domestic Relations Procedure helps keep the process on track. The sooner you produce your discovery responses, the better.

Record Keeping

Document everything. Tracking updates and important dates in a concise journal helps save money and time. Detailed records enhance the attorney’s pretrial memo and effectively convey your narrative. For example, noting specific dates when Parent X was late to pick up the kids is more compelling than stating Parent X is “often late.”

Get It in Writing

Limit communications to texts and emails for accountability and to provide solid evidence for the judge. Verbal communication can be disputed, while written exchanges are harder to challenge. For instance, a text message confirming visitation schedules can serve as concrete evidence in court.

Financial Statement

Don’t underestimate the importance of your financial statement. Update it for each court appearance. The judge relies on this document to determine support awards and asset division. Fill it out accurately and ahead of your court date to avoid costly errors.


Divorce can be emotionally taxing, and every situation is unique. At Reeves Lavallee, PC, we understand the complexities and challenges you face. Our compassionate and experienced legal team is dedicated to providing you with the personalized, confidential service you deserve. We will guide you through your specific circumstances, ensuring that your best interests are protected. Don’t navigate this difficult time alone; let our expertise work for you. Call us at (508) 425-6945 to set up a confidential consultation today, and take the first step towards a brighter future.

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